tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17594054.post7809208011083573053..comments2023-04-05T05:45:53.883-04:00Comments on actofkindness.asia: FavoritesJulie and John Wrighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02496407132283564274noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17594054.post-78421585712372433792009-10-05T01:05:18.729-04:002009-10-05T01:05:18.729-04:00John, it was obvious from the very beginning that ...John, it was obvious from the very beginning that your Kyrgyz daughter was your "real" daughter in every possible way but legally. As one who has been in your shoes in a little way I can truly understand your feelings. Oh, how it hurts to see the life she must live!! What IS your role to be for her? Where SHOULD the line be drawn? Is your purpose to support her as she lifts her siblings up and out of poverty and is the Light in her own dysfunctional home? Or is your role to save her from that? It must be unbearable to be her only real earthly father and have to send her back home at night. The appropriateness aside, those of us who have experienced it as well recognize that her age is just a number and I completely relate to you saying she is just beginning to have a childhood...and that is because of you and your family. God is SO using you, and your humility is what makes you "touchable" for so many who need to be touched. Your genuine love for your fellow man permeates everything you do, and I have not even met you in person. It is just obvious.<br /><br />Why? Why does God do this? Why does it have to hurt so much to care? Why do our hearts have to ache with longing simply because we know someone is unloved and we have pure and untarnished love to offer but can't due to circumstances beyond our control.<br /><br />But keep in mind John that NO love us a waste of time, no matter how limited it may be. She knows you love her, she sees you as her father, she has you to turn to in times of need. View your role in her live the same as you do your older kids who have already struck out on their own. Help her become ever more independent, help her MAKE a life for herself so she can escape if necessary and be able to take care of herself. Help her to feel you and all the Wright clan are always with her. You can not go back and help her regain the childhood she has lost. It is far too late for that no matter how much you'd love to do that. You can help her gain the adulthood she might not ever have if she doesn't have your strength, encouragement and support. She needs you in so many ways, and you ARE there for her. Continue with what you are doing, it is making an incredible difference.<br /><br />And know in your heart that God gave her to you and your family for exactly this purpose. You ARE fulfilling that purpose, even if so often it feels like it is not enough.<br /><br />Your best is enough, it is all you have to offer, it is all God asks of you.<br /><br />You are a wise and oh-so-good man, John.Cindy LaJoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16486626867331586704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17594054.post-70368412484418481272009-10-04T22:51:38.003-04:002009-10-04T22:51:38.003-04:00John my friend, mentor, hero, as Hilary says, you ...John my friend, mentor, hero, as Hilary says, you are not alone with your thoughts... we all share them.. all that read your blog and live your adventure with you as best we can from here.<br />Pastor Ron spoke this morning about being placed here on earth in the most fertile soil HE can find for us. You my friend bare the most abundant and sweetest fruit of all........unconditional love..........we all feel it from you......so we have no doubt that your Kygyz daughter and your family here in Canada know that they are well loved....<br /><br />You are the blessing<br /><br />Dan :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17594054.post-28960173743789330442009-10-04T18:04:14.247-04:002009-10-04T18:04:14.247-04:00You are NEVER alone.You are NEVER alone.Hilary Marquishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17074833890977655054noreply@blogger.com